Holding the Story: Re-Parenting, Grief, and the Quiet Resistance of Care

Abstract

This paper explores the intimate labor of caregiving through the lens of migration, grief, and intergenerational healing. Drawing on autoethnographic method, I reflect on my experience as a Filipina daughter caring for my father during the final stages of life in a system not designed to support either of us. I position caregiving as a political and relational act—one that engages healing while navigating structural abandonment and cultural silence. The study examines how aging intersects with memory and cultural identity, especially in diasporic families where the labor of love often goes unseen. I propose that caregiving is not an endpoint of duty, but a method of meaning-making and resistance. This work invites broader reflection on how societies might honor the invisible labor of racialized migrant caregivers and understand care as a communal practice that resists erasure and centers continuity.

Presenters

Karel Joyce Kalaw
Associate Professor, Sociology, Gerontology & Substance Abuse Studies, University of Central Oklahoma, Oklahoma, United States

Details

Presentation Type

Paper Presentation in a Themed Session

Theme

Social and Cultural Perspectives on Aging

KEYWORDS

Migrant caregiving, Intergenerational healing, Autoethnography, Aging and cultural identity, Emotional labor, Decolonial theory, Feminist care ethics, Diasporic families